I know this is a simple reminder but honestly I think for a long time I struggled with the idea of saying “no”. I feel like when you spend so much time trying to make sure others are okay you end up doing things that don’t make you feel okay.
It stems from wanting to not disappoint others and also people pleasing but it’s okay to say no!! Seriously please say no and still understand that they won’t think less of you for it and IF they do then please know you deserve better than them.🤍
Healing doesn't mean it stops hurting. It means you have decided to do something about the hurt and I am proud of you.
It is normal to have days where everything feels great and you’re happy and it’s also normal to have days where for some reason everything reminds you of the things you’re trying to heal from and I wanted to tell you both days are okay.
The hurt won’t last forever but in order to overcome it you have to embrace the healing process and so far you’ve been doing amazing. DON'T let a bad day seem like a setback. It’s all apart of the journey. Take care of yourself today 🤍
PS. Today I found myself asking why after a very long time. I feel like I’ve been very good lately with understanding that even the things I don’t understand need to happen for a reason but today it just hurt a little bit and I couldn’t help but ask why again, so if you're feeling the same as me, just know you’re not alone and it’s okay.
.. to admit you are not okay and still understand you will be one day. Just not today.
You do not always have to put on a brave face for everyone. It’s okay to admit you aren’t okay but it’s also important to know that just because you aren’t okay today doesn’t mean you won’t be okay one day.
Life can be very confusing and hurtful at times, but it is also amazing and rewarding. Things may be hard right now but I’m rooting for your happiness and wishing things get better for you. You’re going to be okay. I promise.🤍
When sweet memories turn into bitter reminders, take it as a sign that it is time to let go of what once was. There is a reason you are no longer there and that is okay.
This realisation is a bittersweet one for sure but it does show you the growth you’ve made over time without even realising it. The memories you once held were sweet but overtime people change, circumstances change and what once was may not longer even be who you are and that’s okay.🤍
PS. Everything’s going to be okay and I am proud of you.
... continue to do something that makes you unhappy just because you have invested time into it.
Life is all about choices, that time might seem like a lot right now but it’ll be so insignificant down the road. We spend too much time being unhappy because we think that’s the only way, it’s not. Do things that make you happy because life is too short to look back and realise that job wasn’t worth it, the relationship wasn’t for me, the friendship was hurtful, my aspirations became a distant dream. Choose wisely 🤍
PS. So if you’re holding on because of “time wasted” ask yourself: in 20 years time, what will feel more like a waste?
If you are afraid to set a boundary with someone because of how they will negatively react. Take it as proof that the boundary is necessary.
Boundaries are important to protect your inner peace from those who try to take it away from you. Trust your gut instinct and their reaction will prove enough to you about your decision 🤍
PS. If you’re feeling a bit lost or stuck right now just know that you’re going to make it out of this place and give yourself more credit for how far you’ve already come.
.. to heal your inner-self in order to build healthy relationships with others.
You truly do owe it to yourself to address what needs healing and it might be hard to admit a few things but the best part is you’re admitting it to yourself and by doing so you can work towards healing yourself, too🤍
PS. The reason I think this is important is because you don’t want to live life without inner peace, because you’ll never be happy and you’ll always blame others for it. The hard truth is that sometimes the problem starts from within but the amazing result is that realising this then work on becoming a better you, benefits YOU the most.
One day you wake up tired of feeling hurt.
One day you decide you won't stay in the place they left you.
One day you choose to take a step forward.
One day happiness doesn't seem so far away.
One day you decide today is that day.
You’ve been through a lot and I know it’s not easy to move on from it all in one day, but you definitely have one day where it hurts less, where you love yourself a little more, where happiness is a day closer one day where you realise you’ve made so much progress. You didn’t deserve any of the hurt you’ve been through but you do deserve to be happy. I hope you choose happiness today. 🤍
PS. I hope you stay hydrated today and find a reason to smile.
It’s important to know that even the heaviest storms come to an end and the sun shines again. you may feel like nothing is going your way right now but it won’t stay this way forever.
So in case you need this reminder, it’s here for you ok good night/good morning🤍
PS. Don’t be so hard on yourself for not getting everything you needed to get done. Every day is a new day to start over. Also, it’s okay to take a break and a few days will not effect your end goal. 🤍 Take care of yourself .
