Self reminders

• Stop wasting energy on individuals whose behaviour towards you is ambivalent. The people you surround yourself with should provide you with a consistent feeling of safety, warmth, kindness and love.
• You are not obligated to help everyone, all of the time. This is especially true when you yourself are going through a difficult time. Taking care of your mental and emotional needs first does not make you a bad person, nor should you feel guilt about it.
• Some days are filled with an abundance of everything positive, some days are not. Learn to find happiness in the little things on the days that aren’t.
• Other people’s silence in no way reflect your own worth.
• You are allowed to take breaks from society without explaining yourself. You are allowed to take the time to recharge your soul.
• Life in itself is simple; it is your mind and ego that make it complicated. Let go of your expectations and the way you think things “should” be. Accept every situation for what it is.
• Anyone and anything worth having never, ever comes by force.
• Think hard before you speak; and when you believe you’ve reached some degree of certainty that you wish to turn your silent thoughts into words; shut up and think again. Is it kind; is it necessary?
• Extend love and compassion to every soul you encounter. 
• You are allowed to change; your tendencies, interests, opinions, and perspectives are not static or engraved in stone. To deny the possibility of growth is to deny human agency.
• Never resist what you feel. Allow your emotions to visit you without judgment or identification with them. You are not your mind.
• Others’ words can undeniably be comforting, but they may also be empty. Place more significance on actions.
• Stop beating yourself up over the person you used to be. Take responsibility for your bad choices, your ignorance, your toxicity and the way they might have impacted the lives of others as well as your own - but don’t dwell. Use them as a learning experience, as a standard to hold you and your future self above.
• No matter how busy you may be, find the time to appreciate nature. Meditate amongst the trees, the water and the sand. Look up at the stars and breathe.
• Care. Tell people how you feel about them. Never inhibit the quantity or quality of your love out of fear.