Love yourself extra hard on the days it hurts more.

Healing is a frustrating process. Don’t be hard on yourself for the days you feel like you’ve taken a few steps back. Instead, love yourself more on those days because it’s important to be aware that hurting is apart of the process of healing. 🤍

If you wait until you are ready, you will end up waiting for the rest of your life. Do not let fear hold you back from reaching your dreams.

Someone mentioned something similar to me and it really stuck out. I feel like with everything going on, it’s easy to get lost in your head and also feel stuck. Please know that it’s normal to feel that way but your potential is unlimited and is waiting to be unlocked. Don’t wait for the right time to reach for your dreams because there’ll never be a right time. You got this.🤍

Life is not about dwelling on the choices you could have made. It is about understanding the choices you did make needed to happen this way for a reason. Perhaps the outcome of this, saved you from a far more unfavourable outcome of what could have been.

The choices you made have brought you here today for a reason, it it was meant to be any other way it would have happened. I know it hurts and I know you don’t deserve to deal with the pain but I also know you’re going to be so much better after you overcome what you’re going through, I also know that you wouldn’t be the person you are today if things had been any other way and I think you have an amazing soul and I’m glad you’re you. Everything’s going to be okay.🤍

PS. Don’t feel upset over the choices you’ve made, it brought you here for a reason and I’m proud of you.🤍

Self care includes saying no.

I know this is a simple reminder but honestly I think for a long time I struggled with the idea of saying “no”. I feel like when you spend so much time trying to make sure others are okay you end up doing things that don’t make you feel okay. 

It stems from wanting to not disappoint others and also people pleasing but it’s okay to say no!! Seriously please say no and still understand that they won’t think less of you for it and IF they do then please know you deserve better than them.🤍

Healing doesn't mean it stops hurting. It means you have decided to do something about the hurt and I am proud of you.

It is normal to have days where everything feels great and you’re happy and it’s also normal to have days where for some reason everything reminds you of the things you’re trying to heal from and I wanted to tell you both days are okay. 

The hurt won’t last forever but in order to overcome it you have to embrace the healing process and so far you’ve been doing amazing. DON'T let a bad day seem like a setback. It’s all apart of the journey. Take care of yourself today 🤍

PS.  Today I found myself asking why after a very long time. I feel like I’ve been very good lately with understanding that even the things I don’t understand need to happen for a reason but today it just hurt a little bit and I couldn’t help but ask why again, so if you're feeling the same as me, just know you’re not alone and it’s okay.

It is okay...

 .. to admit you are not okay and still understand you will be one day. Just not today.

You do not always have to put on a brave face for everyone. It’s okay to admit you aren’t okay but it’s also important to know that just because you aren’t okay today doesn’t mean you won’t be okay one day. 

Life can be very confusing and hurtful at times, but it is also amazing and rewarding. Things may be hard right now but I’m rooting for your happiness and wishing things get better for you. You’re going to be okay. I promise.🤍

When sweet memories turn into bitter reminders, take it as a sign that it is time to let go of what once was. There is a reason you are no longer there and that is okay.

This realisation is a bittersweet one for sure but it does show you the growth you’ve made over time without even realising it. The memories you once held were sweet but overtime people change, circumstances change and what once was may not longer even be who you are and that’s okay.🤍

PS. Everything’s going to be okay and I am proud of you.

You don't have to...

 ... continue to do something that makes you unhappy just because you have invested time into it.

Life is all about choices, that time might seem like a lot right now but it’ll be so insignificant down the road. We spend too much time being unhappy because we think that’s the only way, it’s not. Do things that make you happy because life is too short to look back and realise that job wasn’t worth it, the relationship wasn’t for me, the friendship was hurtful, my aspirations became a distant dream. Choose wisely 🤍 

PS. So if you’re holding on because of “time wasted” ask yourself: in 20 years time, what will feel more like a waste?

Boundaries.

If you are afraid to set a boundary with someone because of how they will negatively react. Take it as proof that the boundary is necessary.

Boundaries are important to protect your inner peace from those who try to take it away from you. Trust your gut instinct and their reaction will prove enough to you about your decision 🤍

PS. If you’re feeling a bit lost or stuck right now just know that you’re going to make it out of this place and give yourself more credit for how far you’ve already come.

It is important..

 .. to heal your inner-self in order to build healthy relationships with others.

You truly do owe it to yourself to address what needs healing and it might be hard to admit a few things but the best part is you’re admitting it to yourself and by doing so you can work towards healing yourself, too🤍

PS. The reason I think this is important is because you don’t want to live life without inner peace, because you’ll never be happy and you’ll always blame others for it. The hard truth is that sometimes the problem starts from within but the amazing result is that realising this then work on becoming a better you, benefits YOU the most.

One day..

One day you wake up tired of feeling hurt.

One day you decide you won't stay in the place they left you.

One day you choose to take a step forward.

One day happiness doesn't seem so far away.

One day you decide today is that day.

You’ve been through a lot and I know it’s not easy to move on from it all in one day, but you definitely have one day where it hurts less, where you love yourself a little more, where happiness is a day closer one day where you realise you’ve made so much progress. You didn’t deserve any of the hurt you’ve been through but you do deserve to be happy. I hope you choose happiness today. 🤍

PS. I hope you stay hydrated today and find a reason to smile.

When it rains it pours but rain is not evermore.

It’s important to know that even the heaviest storms come to an end and the sun shines again. you may feel like nothing is going your way right now but it won’t stay this way forever. 

So in case you need this reminder, it’s here for you ok good night/good morning🤍

PS. Don’t be so hard on yourself for not getting everything you needed to get done. Every day is a new day to start over. Also, it’s okay to take a break and a few days will not effect your end goal. 🤍 Take care of yourself .

Show up for yourself the same way you show up for others.

Are you doing so? If not, it’s important you start or else you’re not going to have anything left to give yourself and it’ll leave you feeling drained, unhappy, unmotivated, hurt and tired. Maybe if you’re already feeling this way, it may be time to ask yourself if you’re truly there for yourself the way you should be. 🤍 

PS. Giving is important but that includes giving to yourself as well.

The chapter may be done but your story isn't over yet.

Read it till the very end, you never know what is waiting to be found.

I think I really needed this today so maybe you do too. If you’re feeling a bit hopeless at the moment or find yourself reminiscing about a time, a person, a moment; I want you to know that although that chapter may have ended, you have so much more to live for and I promise you as time goes on, and you grow and truly love yourself, it’ll get better. It really will.

PS. I read somewhere that when you take a picture of a sunset and it doesn’t look as breathtaking as the actual sunset, you don’t blame the sunset for not being breathtaking, you blame the picture. The same applies for you, don’t blame yourself, blame the picture didn’t turn out the way you anticipated. Remember your beauty is far too great to be captured and emulated on film.🤍

Sometimes you have to make decisions that not everyone will understand and that is okay.

To live your happiest life you’re going to have to make decisions that not everyone will agree with or understand and it’s okay because it’s YOUR life, not theirs.

I know this is easier said than done but this is also a reminder that if you’re in this situation, it’s okay and keep going. You got this! 🤍

Your pain is valid.

I think this stems from a lot of things but most importantly, it stems from feeling like just because they have it worse doesn’t mean you have it bad. 

You are hurting too and that’s okay. Your feelings and pain is valid too.

PS. Thank you for staying and reading this. I’m sending my best wishes your way and I hope you know how grateful I am for YOU, yes you!

Also side note: I feel like I’ve been all over the place lately but maybe it’s just apart of my journey! Still trying my best.

There is beauty in knowing the things happening in your present are currently orchestrating your unknown future.

You are exactly where you need to be 🤍

I know this is different from my usual writings but it felt fitting because you may be feeling like nothing is happening or maybe you’re feeling stuck but there’s beauty in the unknown because how much do we really see? You need to be here to get there and you never know what’s coming your way.

So be patient, keep hope, trust the process and be optimistic about your future 🤍

It is okay to outgrow people you never thought you would.

Life is about growing and new experiences, please know that just because someone was your all at one point doesn’t mean you owe it to them to hold on now. This can be about an acquaintance, friendship, relationship or even family members. You both needed each other at the time but the extravagant thing about time is that it doesn’t stop. So even though you want to hold on to the moment, you simply have to keep moving forward. You aren’t who you were then and it’s okay to face the reality of letting go. It’s okay to outgrow people you never though you would. It’s not a bad thing, maybe it’s exactly what you need.

PS.  Let go so you have room to hold what’s next. I myself lost 3 "friends" last year during COVID for some reason I myself haven't got a clear reason for, our arguments broke over the internet, and without any explanations whatsoever, I immediately got unfriended & blocked on all social media platforms. What I'm grateful aftermath was that the universe has bless me back with another group of friends which I am very blessed for to surround myself with, all filled with just positive energy and vibes, all supporting each other. I am just really grateful that I let go of those 3 people and opened my arms wide to receive what has came.

Your happiness is worth more than their opinion.

I know their opinions are loud and I know it’s easy to push aside your happiness but at the end of the day their opinions are only empty opinions unless you let them affect your happiness. 

Put your happiness first because you deserve to be happy. You really do and I know it takes a lot to be happy but start with knowing you deserve it and your happiness is worth more than the opinions of others who don’t have your best interest at heart.

PS. I hope you find the happiness you’re looking for. Take care 🤍

Give yourself time to heal from the wounds they left open.

You deserve to heal yourself from the wounds they left. But it’s okay to understand that it takes time and that’s okay! If you keep picking at the wound it’ll never heal but if you allow time, it’ll heal. Also a reminder that everyone’s healing time is different but just remember to be patient with yourself and trust the process.🤍

PS. Make sure you drink enough water today and stay hydrated!! Sometimes it’s so easy to neglect tasks like these that benefit our mind and body so much and I’m guilty of it myself but we got this together!!

You deserve better than you settle for the person they are settling to be.

It doesn’t matter how much love you have for someone, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. It doesn’t matter if you see their “potential” only THEY can reach that potential and it is not up to you to find it for them. 

You know you deserve better but you settle because you love them when they don’t even love themselves enough to want better for themselves. If they’re settling for this version of themselves, doesn’t mean you have to as well. 

Prioritise yourself and what you actually deserve and I know it hurts sometimes but the reality is it may not be them that you need after all. You’re going to be okay.🤍

PS. This is something I struggled to understand for a while but honestly the moment I understood it, I realised my worth is so much more than to settle for certain people in my life and it’s so free-ing to let go. I know it’s hard but sometimes we have to find great discomfort to finally reach true comfort.🤍