Love yourself extra hard on the days it hurts more.

Healing is a frustrating process. Don’t be hard on yourself for the days you feel like you’ve taken a few steps back. Instead, love yourself more on those days because it’s important to be aware that hurting is apart of the process of healing. 🤍

If you wait until you are ready, you will end up waiting for the rest of your life. Do not let fear hold you back from reaching your dreams.

Someone mentioned something similar to me and it really stuck out. I feel like with everything going on, it’s easy to get lost in your head and also feel stuck. Please know that it’s normal to feel that way but your potential is unlimited and is waiting to be unlocked. Don’t wait for the right time to reach for your dreams because there’ll never be a right time. You got this.🤍

Life is not about dwelling on the choices you could have made. It is about understanding the choices you did make needed to happen this way for a reason. Perhaps the outcome of this, saved you from a far more unfavourable outcome of what could have been.

The choices you made have brought you here today for a reason, it it was meant to be any other way it would have happened. I know it hurts and I know you don’t deserve to deal with the pain but I also know you’re going to be so much better after you overcome what you’re going through, I also know that you wouldn’t be the person you are today if things had been any other way and I think you have an amazing soul and I’m glad you’re you. Everything’s going to be okay.🤍

PS. Don’t feel upset over the choices you’ve made, it brought you here for a reason and I’m proud of you.🤍

Self care includes saying no.

I know this is a simple reminder but honestly I think for a long time I struggled with the idea of saying “no”. I feel like when you spend so much time trying to make sure others are okay you end up doing things that don’t make you feel okay. 

It stems from wanting to not disappoint others and also people pleasing but it’s okay to say no!! Seriously please say no and still understand that they won’t think less of you for it and IF they do then please know you deserve better than them.🤍

Healing doesn't mean it stops hurting. It means you have decided to do something about the hurt and I am proud of you.

It is normal to have days where everything feels great and you’re happy and it’s also normal to have days where for some reason everything reminds you of the things you’re trying to heal from and I wanted to tell you both days are okay. 

The hurt won’t last forever but in order to overcome it you have to embrace the healing process and so far you’ve been doing amazing. DON'T let a bad day seem like a setback. It’s all apart of the journey. Take care of yourself today 🤍

PS.  Today I found myself asking why after a very long time. I feel like I’ve been very good lately with understanding that even the things I don’t understand need to happen for a reason but today it just hurt a little bit and I couldn’t help but ask why again, so if you're feeling the same as me, just know you’re not alone and it’s okay.

It is okay...

 .. to admit you are not okay and still understand you will be one day. Just not today.

You do not always have to put on a brave face for everyone. It’s okay to admit you aren’t okay but it’s also important to know that just because you aren’t okay today doesn’t mean you won’t be okay one day. 

Life can be very confusing and hurtful at times, but it is also amazing and rewarding. Things may be hard right now but I’m rooting for your happiness and wishing things get better for you. You’re going to be okay. I promise.🤍

When sweet memories turn into bitter reminders, take it as a sign that it is time to let go of what once was. There is a reason you are no longer there and that is okay.

This realisation is a bittersweet one for sure but it does show you the growth you’ve made over time without even realising it. The memories you once held were sweet but overtime people change, circumstances change and what once was may not longer even be who you are and that’s okay.🤍

PS. Everything’s going to be okay and I am proud of you.

You don't have to...

 ... continue to do something that makes you unhappy just because you have invested time into it.

Life is all about choices, that time might seem like a lot right now but it’ll be so insignificant down the road. We spend too much time being unhappy because we think that’s the only way, it’s not. Do things that make you happy because life is too short to look back and realise that job wasn’t worth it, the relationship wasn’t for me, the friendship was hurtful, my aspirations became a distant dream. Choose wisely 🤍 

PS. So if you’re holding on because of “time wasted” ask yourself: in 20 years time, what will feel more like a waste?

Boundaries.

If you are afraid to set a boundary with someone because of how they will negatively react. Take it as proof that the boundary is necessary.

Boundaries are important to protect your inner peace from those who try to take it away from you. Trust your gut instinct and their reaction will prove enough to you about your decision 🤍

PS. If you’re feeling a bit lost or stuck right now just know that you’re going to make it out of this place and give yourself more credit for how far you’ve already come.

It is important..

 .. to heal your inner-self in order to build healthy relationships with others.

You truly do owe it to yourself to address what needs healing and it might be hard to admit a few things but the best part is you’re admitting it to yourself and by doing so you can work towards healing yourself, too🤍

PS. The reason I think this is important is because you don’t want to live life without inner peace, because you’ll never be happy and you’ll always blame others for it. The hard truth is that sometimes the problem starts from within but the amazing result is that realising this then work on becoming a better you, benefits YOU the most.

One day..

One day you wake up tired of feeling hurt.

One day you decide you won't stay in the place they left you.

One day you choose to take a step forward.

One day happiness doesn't seem so far away.

One day you decide today is that day.

You’ve been through a lot and I know it’s not easy to move on from it all in one day, but you definitely have one day where it hurts less, where you love yourself a little more, where happiness is a day closer one day where you realise you’ve made so much progress. You didn’t deserve any of the hurt you’ve been through but you do deserve to be happy. I hope you choose happiness today. 🤍

PS. I hope you stay hydrated today and find a reason to smile.

When it rains it pours but rain is not evermore.

It’s important to know that even the heaviest storms come to an end and the sun shines again. you may feel like nothing is going your way right now but it won’t stay this way forever. 

So in case you need this reminder, it’s here for you ok good night/good morning🤍

PS. Don’t be so hard on yourself for not getting everything you needed to get done. Every day is a new day to start over. Also, it’s okay to take a break and a few days will not effect your end goal. 🤍 Take care of yourself .

Show up for yourself the same way you show up for others.

Are you doing so? If not, it’s important you start or else you’re not going to have anything left to give yourself and it’ll leave you feeling drained, unhappy, unmotivated, hurt and tired. Maybe if you’re already feeling this way, it may be time to ask yourself if you’re truly there for yourself the way you should be. 🤍 

PS. Giving is important but that includes giving to yourself as well.

The chapter may be done but your story isn't over yet.

Read it till the very end, you never know what is waiting to be found.

I think I really needed this today so maybe you do too. If you’re feeling a bit hopeless at the moment or find yourself reminiscing about a time, a person, a moment; I want you to know that although that chapter may have ended, you have so much more to live for and I promise you as time goes on, and you grow and truly love yourself, it’ll get better. It really will.

PS. I read somewhere that when you take a picture of a sunset and it doesn’t look as breathtaking as the actual sunset, you don’t blame the sunset for not being breathtaking, you blame the picture. The same applies for you, don’t blame yourself, blame the picture didn’t turn out the way you anticipated. Remember your beauty is far too great to be captured and emulated on film.🤍

Sometimes you have to make decisions that not everyone will understand and that is okay.

To live your happiest life you’re going to have to make decisions that not everyone will agree with or understand and it’s okay because it’s YOUR life, not theirs.

I know this is easier said than done but this is also a reminder that if you’re in this situation, it’s okay and keep going. You got this! 🤍

Your pain is valid.

I think this stems from a lot of things but most importantly, it stems from feeling like just because they have it worse doesn’t mean you have it bad. 

You are hurting too and that’s okay. Your feelings and pain is valid too.

PS. Thank you for staying and reading this. I’m sending my best wishes your way and I hope you know how grateful I am for YOU, yes you!

Also side note: I feel like I’ve been all over the place lately but maybe it’s just apart of my journey! Still trying my best.

There is beauty in knowing the things happening in your present are currently orchestrating your unknown future.

You are exactly where you need to be 🤍

I know this is different from my usual writings but it felt fitting because you may be feeling like nothing is happening or maybe you’re feeling stuck but there’s beauty in the unknown because how much do we really see? You need to be here to get there and you never know what’s coming your way.

So be patient, keep hope, trust the process and be optimistic about your future 🤍

It is okay to outgrow people you never thought you would.

Life is about growing and new experiences, please know that just because someone was your all at one point doesn’t mean you owe it to them to hold on now. This can be about an acquaintance, friendship, relationship or even family members. You both needed each other at the time but the extravagant thing about time is that it doesn’t stop. So even though you want to hold on to the moment, you simply have to keep moving forward. You aren’t who you were then and it’s okay to face the reality of letting go. It’s okay to outgrow people you never though you would. It’s not a bad thing, maybe it’s exactly what you need.

PS.  Let go so you have room to hold what’s next. I myself lost 3 "friends" last year during COVID for some reason I myself haven't got a clear reason for, our arguments broke over the internet, and without any explanations whatsoever, I immediately got unfriended & blocked on all social media platforms. What I'm grateful aftermath was that the universe has bless me back with another group of friends which I am very blessed for to surround myself with, all filled with just positive energy and vibes, all supporting each other. I am just really grateful that I let go of those 3 people and opened my arms wide to receive what has came.

Your happiness is worth more than their opinion.

I know their opinions are loud and I know it’s easy to push aside your happiness but at the end of the day their opinions are only empty opinions unless you let them affect your happiness. 

Put your happiness first because you deserve to be happy. You really do and I know it takes a lot to be happy but start with knowing you deserve it and your happiness is worth more than the opinions of others who don’t have your best interest at heart.

PS. I hope you find the happiness you’re looking for. Take care 🤍

Give yourself time to heal from the wounds they left open.

You deserve to heal yourself from the wounds they left. But it’s okay to understand that it takes time and that’s okay! If you keep picking at the wound it’ll never heal but if you allow time, it’ll heal. Also a reminder that everyone’s healing time is different but just remember to be patient with yourself and trust the process.🤍

PS. Make sure you drink enough water today and stay hydrated!! Sometimes it’s so easy to neglect tasks like these that benefit our mind and body so much and I’m guilty of it myself but we got this together!!

You deserve better than you settle for the person they are settling to be.

It doesn’t matter how much love you have for someone, you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. It doesn’t matter if you see their “potential” only THEY can reach that potential and it is not up to you to find it for them. 

You know you deserve better but you settle because you love them when they don’t even love themselves enough to want better for themselves. If they’re settling for this version of themselves, doesn’t mean you have to as well. 

Prioritise yourself and what you actually deserve and I know it hurts sometimes but the reality is it may not be them that you need after all. You’re going to be okay.🤍

PS. This is something I struggled to understand for a while but honestly the moment I understood it, I realised my worth is so much more than to settle for certain people in my life and it’s so free-ing to let go. I know it’s hard but sometimes we have to find great discomfort to finally reach true comfort.🤍 

It is okay to be upset over it but don't stay there for too long because..

... you deserve better than how you were treated.

You deserve so much more than the cards you’ve been dealt and I know it seems hard right now but it’s okay to continue moving forward and you owe it to yourself to do so.🤍

PS. Take care of yourself today and be compassionate to your mind and body.

It is okay to ask for help.

Somewhere along the way someone made you feel like it’s a bad thing to ask for help but it’s not and it’s never too late.

Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it doesn’t make you lose credibility and it doesn’t make you any less of who you are.

Also, I know that social media and some of the people around you may make it seem like they have it all figured out but nobody really does and that’s okay! So don’t be afraid to ask when you need it because there is always someone ready to lend a hand.

PS. I know I try to stay positive on here but today I’m feeling absolutely drained 🥺 I’m going to try my best to do little self care things throughout the day and I hope you do so too for your own well-being. Sending love🤍

I know someone broke your trust and it's hard to let people in but this world is too heavy to carry on your own. It's okay to trust again.

Trust. Trust is something that takes a lot to build up but is so easily broken. Personally, I feel that I try to always look at life as “what’s meant to be will be”, “it needed to happen that way for better things” “there’s a lesson” etc. I believe this positive outlook has helped me in a lot of ways because I have definitely grown so much and deserve better than some places I’ve been but at the same time I didn’t realise that in always moving forward I begun to not trust anyone anymore. I began to question when good things happened to me and always felt the need to over-complicate something simple because it was too good to be true.

I still struggle with this now but I’m aware of it, whereas, before it was in my subconscious that I was doing so.

If you’re feeling the same way, just know that it’s not your fault that you have a hard time trusting, it was your circumstances that led you here. But also know that, you deserve to trust again and it’s okay to do so because this world is too heavy to navigate on your own and not everyone is going to break your trust. Rooting for you, as always🤍

PS. The world may be too heavy to carry but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the world, because you do.🤍

The destination may seem far but you are going to get there.

Stay consistent and trust the process.

Sometimes we know exactly what we want and know what we have to do to get there but it seems so far away and makes us think it’s unreachable. You deserve to reach every goal you set out for yourself and the journey may seem lonely but the destination is attainable. Trust the process even when you feel like there’s no progress because there is and it’ll be worth it.🤍

PS. I hope you can use this as motivation and a reminder that you got this and are so deserving of reaching your goals 🤍 rooting for you! 

Good things are meant for you too.

You deserve good things too and they are meant for you even on the days you feel like you don’t deserve them. Rooting for you🤍

PS. Make sure you remember to breathe when things get overwhelming and treat yourself today.

Self-doubt will only lead you to staying somewhere you don't belong, instead..

 .... start believing in yourself and watch how far you go.

You can achieve anything you want and the biggest block sometimes, is yourself. A lot of the times we want to accomplish something but the fear of our own potential may hold us back. You can and will accomplish what you set your mind to. 

So stop self doubting and stop self sabotaging. You deserve to reach your dreams and it all starts with one tiny step. You got this!🤍

PS. It’s time to stop settling for what makes you unhappy and reach for the dreams you actually deserve!

It needed to happen this way right now for reasons you will understand later on.

Do you ever find yourself asking, “why me?”

I know you didn’t deserve it and I know it might not make sense why this is happening to you right now but it will make sense one day. 

Trust the process and choose you each time 🤍

PS. Self love is so important so choose you, the more you do so, the less their opinions matter 🤍

Maybe this isn't your ideal outcome but maybe...

... it needed to be this way to save you from something worse.

I know you were hoping it would have worked out another way but maybe it needed to happen this way to save you from something worse down the road. I guess we will never know and I guess it’ll always be a “maybe” but find comfort in knowing that maybe it’s better that you didn’t have to find out that way. Trust the process, you’re being protected.🤍

PS. Find comfort in knowing that what “could have been” never happened for reasons that are in YOUR favour.🤍

Don't be afraid to put your mental health first.

It’s so easy to take care of the rest of the world but why do we hesitate to take care of ourselves first?

Somewhere along the way, someone or something made you believe that your mental health isn’t a priority and I’m here to remind you that IT IS. 

Don’t be afraid to put your mental health first and take care of yourself. I promise it’s okay! The right people will always understand and the wrong people don’t deserve a place in your life. Your mind and body deserve the same compassion you give others.🤍

PS. I know it’s scary to think that you’re worthy of giving yourself all the love you offer to others but you are and if only you could see yourself from my eyes because I promise you’re worth too much to not love yourself.🤍

It is okay to make mistakes,

 It is okay to be upset.

But it is also okay to forgive yourself.

It is okay to grow.

It is okay! You have grown so much from where you used to be so why are you still being so hard on yourself? This is your first time navigating this life and you didn’t know better at the time. 

Forgive yourself. you know it as much as I do that we can’t go back and change where we’ve been but you get to choose where you’re heading.🤍

PS. It is also important that I mention it’s time to stop blaming yourself for the mistakes that weren’t yours to carry, alright? I’m sorry they made you believe it was your fault, it wasn’t.

It is okay to miss someone and still recognise you deserve better than who they were to you.

This is such a complicated feeling because you have some days where you understand you deserved better and aren’t willing to settle for who they were to you but then you have other days where you miss them a little more than usual and you wish they were still in your life. Both are okay! Both are apart of moving forward and healing. It’s a complicated feeling but it’s important to acknowledge it. Rooting for your inner happiness and peace.🤍

PS. I hope it becomes easier to understand why things happened this way for you and I hope you reach a point where you are at peace with how things worked out. 

You are going to get through this and it is going to be worth it.

I feel like right now especially, everyday just seems like it is not going to change but it will, you deserve the world and even on the days you feel like it is going to be hard to overcome this, just know you will and all of your efforts are going to be worth it.

You are not alone in feeling this way and I know that social media and people around you may make you feel like everyone but you is progressing but that’s not the case! You’re doing great and you’re going to get through this 🤍

Stop blaming yourself for the mistakes that weren't yours to carry in the first place.

I know someone convinced you that it was your fault and maybe you convinced yourself too but deep down it wasn’t. Deep down you know that and it’s time to stop blaming yourself for mistakes that weren’t yours, it’s time to let go of always being the one to take the fall. 🤍

You are enough. Stop thinking otherwise.

You are enough. 

I know how easy it is to compare yourself to others and feel like you aren’t good enough but you are and anyone who has made you feel like you’re not, doesn’t deserve you. I hope you know that.

PS. Stop comparing your journey to someone else’s, you are on different paths for a reason. Make sure you are kind to yourself today.

Stop breaking your own heart by choosing others over yourself.

You have spent so long choosing others over yourself and it has led to a lot of moments of heartbreak you didn’t deserve to go through. 

It’s time to choose you, for you. 

You deserve it. Seriously!🤍

PS. I am rooting for your happiness and sending you lots of love, be kind to yourself today and trust your intuition 🤍

It is easy to think about what could have been, but don't forget...

 ..... to be grateful for what it is.

In the midst of wondering how things could have turned out and feeling that resentment and hurt, remind yourself of how things did turn out and why you’re grateful they did this way. You know it better than anyone, even if it hurts.

As much as I know things happen for a reason I still can’t help but hold on to the regret of how some things could have been but it’s important I remind myself they didn’t work out that way for a reason and is there is so much better for me, even if it hurts to acknowledge right now. So if you’re feeling the same, I hope this gives you comfort and opens your eyes to why it needed to be this way 🥺🤍

PS. Take this as a reminder to put your mental health first today and do at least one kind thing for yourself 🤍 

Give yourself more credit for...

 .... pulling yourself out of that dark mental place.

It's not easy and yet here you are doing it.

We often overlook how hard it is to put YOURSELF out of that dark mental place because there’s nobody but you that can do it. Sometimes it’s easier to stay there than it is to actively work on getting out and I’m proud of you for doing it all on your own. 

Self motivation end self healing is so hard to do when self sabotage is involved yet you push through it everyday and it’s hard and you’re doing it so be proud of yourself too. Rooting for you to make it out and find true happiness 🤍🥺

My tip for you is to: Take it day by day!! I know you’re stressed and overwhelmed but remember to just be patient with yourself and only focus on one thing at a time🥺🤍🤍

Do not waste your only life catering to people who make you feel miserable.

If you relate to this it’s because you’re a kind, empathetic and caring person. 

You always put people before yourself and want them to be happy even if it’s at the expense of your own happiness.

I know it’s hard but you need start being kind, empathetic and caring to your own self.

This is the only life you have, why would you waste it being miserable?

Do not let the desire of perfection lead you to procastination.

Stop waiting to do something because you’re scared the outcome won’t be what you desire. 

Sometimes wanting perfection is exactly what holds you back from unlocking your potential.

Things in life are imperfectly, perfect. 

Do what you’re meant to do without the fear of failing and it will change your life.

Stop feeling guilty for putting yourself first.

Your future self will thank you for it.

The person you are one year from now will either thank you or resent you for the choices you make now. 

Choose wisely.

Do not let the fear of failing hold you back from starting.

Stop holding back because you’re afraid of the outcome. 

Just start. What’s the worst thing that can happen?

Another reminder for me as I've decided to stop fear controlling me and charging forward for a new pathway soon.

It is okay to still wonder how they are even if it is no longer your place to ask.

Sometimes, the one you love the most, is the one who left your life for reasons you can’t understand or don’t want to understand.

It’s okay to still wonder how they are even if they hurt you. It’s okay to want the best for them. It’s okay to sometimes wish you still had access to them enough to ask if they’re okay.

Other times, this is why you hold on to them even though you know it’s time to let go.

Will they be okay without me?

Will I be okay without them?

Are two questions you find yourself asking because you don’t want to lose access to this person when it’s all said and done.

But remember, it’s okay to still love them and put yourself first.

Often times, when you love someone; you will always care about them and want to make sure they’re okay. And that’s okay.

Remind yourself it’s okay to let go, and it’s okay to still wonder how they are.

Just remember to ask yourself the same question, too. How are you?

Stop waiting for "the right time", there is no such thing.

I’m guilty of this myself. 

In your life, you’re going to be in situations where you want to so badly do something but it seems like it isn’t the right time. Often times, you’re lying to yourself because the truth is, you’re just scared

The truth is, I’ve lost the people and things I loved the most because I was afraid of the moment and using timing was the perfect excuse. But what I’ve learned is, that moment never finds you again.

So stop waiting for the right time and just do it. It’s better to know the outcome than to spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been.

You’ll be fine, I promise 🤍

It is okay to be sad after making the right decision.

 The right decision doesn’t mean the easy decision. Honestly, most times we’re so accustomed to our regular routines and being comfortable that it’s hard to say goodbye, it’s hard to put yourself first and it’s hard to leave when the only thing you want to do is stay.

The right decision is never easy. That’s WHY it’s the right decision. 

It’s okay to be sad, it’s going to be hard, but your future self will thank you. I promise 🤍

it is time to cut off people who leave you feeling worse about yourself.

A genuine person in your life should not be jealous of you. If they are, there are aspects of their own life that cause them to be this way. Unless they start to take accountability for it and fix those shortcomings; they don’t deserve to be in your life. Cut them off.

It still hurts.

Don’t be hard on yourself for still being hurt. 

Healing is a process that takes a lot of time and is filled with many ups and downs.

Stop comparing your lows to their highs. Social media is not real.

 Nobody’s life is perfect; but a lot of people are guilty of making their life SEEM perfect.

And this is what I have been doing, how it kept me sane, how I'm now being authentic and real with what brands I work with and be shown over at my beauty page, if you haven't follow me yet, please do so over at: https://www.instagram.com/melon_yu/ 

Find patience in your darkest moments.

 This is honestly one of the hardest things to do but you need to know things are happening this way right now for a reason and continue to hold on to hope and be patient because that’s how you find the light again.

This is the sign you have been asking for.

 In our most lost, confusing and challenging moments we always ask for a sign. 

Maybe this is yours. 

Maybe this is the sign you need to leave, this is the sign you need to know they will come back, this is the sign you need to know everything will be okay. Whatever it is, maybe this is the sign you’ve been asking for.

Do not forge it. Instead, remember it all and overcome it.

If you do not overcome it, you will never be able to grow from it.

Often times, trauma or heartache consumes our thoughts to a point where we wish we could just forget it all and move on. 

But one of the most important things I’ve learned is if you try to forget it, you’ll never be able to learn or grow from it. So instead “remember it all and overcome it”. #itsokaynottobeokay

Remember, everything you want is on the other side of fear. It is okay to take a break when life gets overwhelming but don't let fear hold you back from what you want.

Saying NO is therapeutic.

 Stop feeling guilty for telling someone "no".

It is okay if things are not perfect right now! Keep going!

You worked hard to be here. Nobody can take it away from you.

 People are afraid of your potential and will try to tear you down before you can reach it. 

It is up to you to overcome it. 

Start valuing your hard work, dedication and perseverance more than their opinions and it will change your life forever.

Remember, it is okay to not be okay sometimes. Put yourself first.🤍

You did not deserve the hurt you were put through.

 A lot of the times we ask "What did I do to deserve this?"

But instead it is important to be reminded that you did nothing at all.

Put yourself first.

It is okay to be sad over something you thought you healed from.

I came across something similar to this and really wanted to share it with you because as you know I always love to leave friendly reminders to not be so hard on yourself, especially when you are trying to heal!

Some days WILL be better than others and I don't want you to think that all your time healing went to waste because something reminded you and made you sad all over again. It is a long process and this is also part of the process.

Trust me on this.

2021.

 Hello blog, literally almost 2 years since I've last visited here.

So much has happened since I last written.

"Your past doesn't need you anymore. You future does."

It took me a while to understand this but I can't keep dwelling on the past while time keeps moving forward. I owe it to my future to be present and find myself and you owe it to yourself, too. It is hard but this reminder is needed and so important. And this is what got me through the past two years while I was away.

Still here? It is time to let go of what could have been and focus on what is yet to come.

I have written my thoughts over time in my (physical) journal, I will schedule them to be published here, if that is, any reader is still here!