Saturday 20 May 2017

FIVE stages of a relationship.

I. The "meet" - when you first meet someone you’re interested in, probably attracted by their outside appearances. Your curiosity kicks in and you have this urge of getting to know them more, on a personal level.

II. The "talk" - you guys start talking, you get to know each other better and slowly, you guys begin to develop feelings. Then you become a part of each other’s daily routine, and your day feels incomplete when you don’t talk to him/her.

III. The "honeymoon" stage - when your relationship gets to a point where you can’t go through the whole day without thinking about your significant other. You get butterflies by the mention of their name, your smile like a idiot while checking their texts, your friends ask you “so who’s this new girl/guy?” because they notice how much happier you have been. After a while, they become the source of your happiness and you try to make time out of your day just so you guys can talk. You both begin to lose a large amount of sleep but it doesn't seem to matter, you guys are satisfied as long as you guys are giving each other company.

IV. Relationship downhill - when you guys are constantly fighting about nothing. You feel as if he/she doesn't care and you try to stop yourself from caring too much. You refuse to be the first to hit them up, yet you check your non-stop hoping for a text/call from them, but always end up in disappointment. You do whatever it takes to keep your mind off of them and try to keep yourself busy, yet you still find yourself wondering if they ever think of you, because all you do is think about them.

V. Strangers, again - when no effort is coming from any of you guys. You feel completely broken, you blame the other person for everything and eventually, both of you stop trying. You finally find the courage to erase them from your life, you tell yourself “I will move on” and hope for everything to get better.

And... in the end, you guys end up as strangers, again.

"You deserved so much better."

This phrase always hit a chord in me..... I then realised.... we so often say this.... in the midst of rejecting others.