I see people get into a relationship and last for months and even years. I think to myself “Yeah, they’re definitely meant for each other. I will be there for their wedding.”
And then out of the blue, they break up and it’s like what the hell? WHAT ON EARTH HAPPENED.
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There has always been a question at the back of my mind to why? Why does the longer the relationship is, the more likely it is to breakup? To what reason... that lead to the end..? Like I know the typical reasons could be people cheat, people change, people lost interest, but are there more to it? I believe there is no single, easy answer to this question.
I think one of the major reason that contributes to "why" is that people change. It's true, our priorities change, our desires change and our perspective of happiness changes.
The things that are important to us at 20 are not the same as they are at 30, 40 or 50. Older couples find that, after 30 years of working and other commitments, they may have little in common. Life changes affect people differently. I also heard that children change everything. Most of the long-term relationships I know that broke up because, after lust wore off and the children stopped needing care all the time, the two parents looked at each other and realised they simply didn't like each other all that much as people, or they wanted completely different things for themselves.
I am definitely not an expert in breaking up after long relationships (well not that I have even ever has experienced one yet) but as long as my mind is speculating around here on this topic, I would like to explore and place my bet on the idea of "why" it could be is: the feeling that we are missing out on something because of the relationship.
That something could be dreams, travel, adventure, career, a desire etc. Ultimately everyone is looking for happiness and we all have different ways of finding it. Sometimes we feel that this relationship may not be our best path to it and we choose to break-up.
Apologies if this is too dumb and open-ended question, but at my age (20) and lack of life experience, I just can't get my head around it. I understand that there will be quite a lot of different responses, and it's the range of experiences that I'm interested in hearing/knowing/reading. The issue(s) that ended the relationship 0 did they arise unexpectedly? Or did you always sort of know? I have this morbid curiosity to know what can make something really really good evaporate into nothing.
What do YOU think? I would love to hear any thoughts :D
And then out of the blue, they break up and it’s like what the hell? WHAT ON EARTH HAPPENED.
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There has always been a question at the back of my mind to why? Why does the longer the relationship is, the more likely it is to breakup? To what reason... that lead to the end..? Like I know the typical reasons could be people cheat, people change, people lost interest, but are there more to it? I believe there is no single, easy answer to this question.
I think one of the major reason that contributes to "why" is that people change. It's true, our priorities change, our desires change and our perspective of happiness changes.
The things that are important to us at 20 are not the same as they are at 30, 40 or 50. Older couples find that, after 30 years of working and other commitments, they may have little in common. Life changes affect people differently. I also heard that children change everything. Most of the long-term relationships I know that broke up because, after lust wore off and the children stopped needing care all the time, the two parents looked at each other and realised they simply didn't like each other all that much as people, or they wanted completely different things for themselves.
I am definitely not an expert in breaking up after long relationships (well not that I have even ever has experienced one yet) but as long as my mind is speculating around here on this topic, I would like to explore and place my bet on the idea of "why" it could be is: the feeling that we are missing out on something because of the relationship.
That something could be dreams, travel, adventure, career, a desire etc. Ultimately everyone is looking for happiness and we all have different ways of finding it. Sometimes we feel that this relationship may not be our best path to it and we choose to break-up.
Apologies if this is too dumb and open-ended question, but at my age (20) and lack of life experience, I just can't get my head around it. I understand that there will be quite a lot of different responses, and it's the range of experiences that I'm interested in hearing/knowing/reading. The issue(s) that ended the relationship 0 did they arise unexpectedly? Or did you always sort of know? I have this morbid curiosity to know what can make something really really good evaporate into nothing.
What do YOU think? I would love to hear any thoughts :D
