Here's what I've learnt over a long period of time:

You’re wondering if he still loves you, but any kind of love that is void of action is not the kind of love that you deserve.
So ask yourself… does it really matter?
That one question will cause aches in the walls of your sorrowful chest.
And truthfully you already know the answer before you ask.

If it’s the kind of love that allows him to willfully stay away…then I beg you, I plead, let it go.
Let him go.
You deserve the kind of love that stays by your side and does not make you question its existence.

It didn’t matter what people thought about her. Her focus was never on small talk. She had better things to do in life, like become a better woman. She didn’t care what people said behind her back because most of them never had the guts to say it to her face anyway. She didn’t care if people believed in her, or if they were going to pick up and leave. What she offered was more than good enough and anyone who wanted to walk away from that… Well, that was on them.

One day, it just clicks.

You realise what’s important and what isn’t.
You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself.
You realise how far you have come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that you would never recover.
And you smile.
You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you’ve fought to become.

2017 is a selfish year.

My time will be invested on me. On improving myself. I want to become a better person physically and mentally.

A month later.

Well well well can't believe it has been a month since I've visited this old site of mine.
Life has been super busy - with work, blogging, youtube, friends and family of course, that I can't fault anything at this stage in my life at all! I'm super happy and glad with the opportunities I've received at work, I'm overjoyed that my effort in beauty blogging is seeping day by day and I'm continuously working hard for it, which I can see where that hard work is slowly ripping.

PS. I missed writing. Not just with beauty blogging, but just carefree thinking. I really do. And that's my March challenge - I will post here as often as I can when my mind speaks out.

And here's something to think about tonight :)

I think as you grow older you look for very different things in people. 

Honesty. Loyalty. Integrity. 

But most of all, you look for someone who will stand right by your side when the walls start crumbling and the fires rage within. 

They are right there, and in that moment, you know they’ve got you.

First of February.

Wow. Just like that, first month of 2017 is gone. Never to return.

Anyways, here's today inspiration.

When you love yourself, you learn to stop investing your time and energy on those who don't matter. If there's one thing you never get back, it's time. Dedicate your time and energy on those who matter. Be smart and strong enough to walk away.
Let go, move on, and realise you deserve better. And last but not least, be the type of person you want to attract and be around. (Your vibe attracts your tribe!)

Is it worth the argument?

I have a mind of my own and am an opinionated stubborn sass. I used to argue even when I knew I was wrong. Over the years, I learned it's important what you choose to stand up for and that arguing is not always the right nor is it an approachable way to address a certain issue. I also learned to value people who are in my life more than my ego, so I agree to disagree because everyone is different in the way they see and think.
However, standing up for what's right, what is yours, and what you want is necessary.
Choose what is worth standing up for. You don't need to agree with everything/everyone, but understand that you can agree to disagree without starting a petty argument.
Everyone has their own opinions and thoughts and that's what makes everyone uniquely different.

Loyalty isn't grey. It's black and white. You're either loyal completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You can't be loyal only when it serves you.

Kindness.

It doesn't cost a damn thing.

I believe in being kind to everyone, even a-holes because you never know what they're going through. Maybe they just need a little sunshine after having a bad day and/or week. It literally doesn't cost a thing to be nice. It could be as simple as giving them a nice compliment, giving them a hand with groceries, or even opening the door. People underestimate the power of how a small act of kindness has an impact on others. It may be a small act to you, but that small act of kindness can turn someone's day/week around. So be a little ray of sunshine to everyone you meet because kindness goes a long way☀️💜