Things to achieve in 2015:

Good morning everyone :) Been quite busy lately with working and all, finally get to seat down in front of my laptop, fully energized should I say, to type out this post.... It's never too late to share my wanting-to-achieve list for this year right?
Here goes haha, hope y'all enjoy :) *in no particular order*
*I too also typed this in full chinese in my chinese blog: click HERE*

1) 学会认错: Learn to admit wrong

常常不肯认错, 凡事都说是别人的错, 认为自己才是对的, 其实不认错就是一个错。认错的对象可以是父母, 朋友, 社会大众等等。向对我不好的人认错, 自己不但不会少了什么, 反而显得你有度量。学习认错是美好的，是一个大修行。
We are humans, we don't "normally" admit ourselves being wrong, instead we shift the blame to someone/something else right? Eventhough sometimes we know that we ourselves are the wrong ones yet, we don't admit we made that mistakes. That someone we often point the blame to, could be our parents, friends, the community etc. To me, a person who admits the mistake himself/herself doesn't make him/her weak! It makes you awesome, in more serious words, a person with a good measure. It even takes tremendous courage and strength to mumble out the words of "I was wrong and I am sorry", let alone to speak it out.
Learning to admit is good practice and by saying that, I too am still learning.

2) 学会放下: Learn to let go

人生像一只皮箱, 需要用的时候提起, 不用的时就把它放下, 应放下的时候, 却不放下, 就像拖着沉重的行李, 无法自在。人生的岁月有限, 认错, 尊重, 包容才能让人接受, 放下才自在啊！
Life is like a suitcase. When we need it aka for travelling purpose, we dig it out and use it, but when we finish our vacation, we put it aside. If the vacation has already ended yet we're still in the "holiday" mood, carrying the suitcase won't do us much good right? Life has limits, meaning if it's the time to let go, it really is the time to do so.
I guess this is the most important one for me. Letting go has always been my weakness. I'm not the type of person who can easily forget and let go because of the fact that I don't do things half-heartedly. There's no gray area. I either bare all or I don't at all.

3) 学会珍惜: Learn to appreciate

学会珍惜, 因为现在得到的都是最美好的。愛情, 友情也好, 很多時候散了就散了。
當初要好的時候, 他也曾把心託付給我，是我自己不好好珍惜。心胸寬大一點, 世界就會美好一點。
We all know that life is short. Who knows what will happen next? Whether it be relationship or friendship, if it has ended, let it be. He whom gave his whole to me, yet I didn't appreciate this and passed it as a joking matter as I was too young, too immature and hence took him for granted. Now to think of it, this has always reminded me how stupid and ungrateful I was, and why it's useless for me now to be regretting over this matter. Hopefully, at the end of this year, I will gradually learn to be even more open-minded, as being so, will let me see the world in a more positive way and more appreciative of what I have right now.

4) 学会别轻易放弃: Learn to not give up easily

做人千万别轻易放弃! 因为你有了第一次, 也许会有第二次, 也许你的人生就会习惯于知难而退, 可是如果你克服过去, 你的人生就会习惯于迎风破浪地前进, 看着只是一个简单的选择, 其实影响非常大, 会使你走向截然不同的人生。
This was what I learnt last year, if you have seen my confession post (LINK), you would roughly know what I went through, if you didn't or you have forgot, basically at one time, I completely lost hope and I gave up on living. Luckily and fortunately, I passed that stage, with the help and support from my family and friends. From that, I learnt that life is short, once you made a no-return choice, that is it, hence the point I made above: appreciate life.

5) 学会自强: Learn to be strong

要知道没有人必须在你需要的时候帮你, 只有你自己, 所以让自己独立, 坚强, 快乐, 幸福, 才是你需要做的, 毕竟只有自己和你生死与共, 休戚相关。
Sometimes being strong is the only choice when you're left alone in your own world. Because after all, eventhough we came into this world surrounded by family, but when we leave, we leave alone. Only we ourselves, when learn to bear, can make ourselves more independent, more strong and more happier.

6) 学会拒绝别人: Learn how to say "No"

拒绝别人 - 勇于说 “不”, 该出“口”时要出“口” 。
To me, it's not that I'm afraid to say no, but there has always been another side *well to be exact, a rebellious side* of me that asks, "what if you say yes? what will happen? Say yessss" and probes me to do so. I realised by doing this, I have hurt people along the way. I felt bad as in most cases, I was only fooling around while the opposite party was actually serious. This year, I'm going to try to stand firm on my decision to say no and try not to fool around anymore as I do not want to hurt people anymore..

And lastly....

7) 学会成长: Grow up

人生, 总有一些路, 要独立去走; 总有一些事情, 要独立去做。每一种经历, 都是一次自我修炼, 只有接受洗礼, 才能真正学会坚强 。其实, 人生中的每一段经历都只为成长, 开心也好, 苦楚也罢, 都要感谢经历！
I'm sure we have all heard that growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional right haha?
Following on what I said above about learning to say no, I think I have reach to the point where all the foolish things I have done in the past few years have really affected me to where I am right now. All those little mistakes and changes have shaped me "me" and altered my perspectives on various aspects of my life. After all, the experiences we gained along the way add up to our grow-up process, our experiences are what we are made up of.

PS. I wouldn't really categorised this list as my resolutions of 2015, as to me, "resolution" is just a really common word for people to use to motivate themselves to change for that particular year, where in fact, we change little by little everyday, whether we notice or not.

I shall see you all in my next post :)

Love,
Velene xoxo