‪Speak your truth regardless of how it is received.
Always remember, people can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves.
When others misunderstand you, it never has anything to do with you.‬

Some things in life are just difficult and unfair and impossible and heartbreaking. We may never get over some things. We may never forgive some people. We may never find closure in some situations. And that’s okay.
We will keep living despite all these things.

Grounding exercise

Grounding is a great technique when you feel that anxiety and panic coming on. When you contemplate and ponder on about the past or worrying about the future. If you feel disconnected from the world around you. It can help you stay in the moment.

Grounding exercise is used during a panic attack, when you need to stay calm, or any time you feel disconnected from your body.

Look around and you. Identify and name:

- 5 things you can see

- 4 things you feel

- 3 things you hear

- 2 things you smell

- 1 thing you taste

I learned this during my therapy (in the early days) and since, I have used it often for a long time.
It is easy to remember and it forces you to step back from your thoughts which is really helpful.

Stop. Relax. The world is not on fire all of the time. The skies are not about to tumble onto you. You are safe. Supported. Breathe in, breathe out.

“1. You must let the pain visit. 2. You must allow it teach you. 3. You must not allow it overstay.”

— Ijeoma Umebinyuo, three routes to healing

Someone has confessed something so delicate to me and yet I choose to ignore it. Someone has seen something in me despite the fact I have avoided, rejected and even tune out their very existence. In my defense you have become quite obsessed. Nonetheless you deserve someone better than how I have been treating you. Your words should not be wasted on someone who will not return the favour.

As I'm typing this on the 16th March 2019, I stopped for a split second, to turn on another tab and checked when was the last post I did - and that was the 22nd December 2018. About 3 months ago. Yes only 3 months I told myself - it wasn't meant to be a designated break - but it became. I felt like the more I grew (mentally), the less I could convey my emotions into words. There's so much in my head right now yet I can't translate into words. I know it will take time. As things do.

But for now, au revoir! x

To travel is better than to arrive.

There are many different types of paths you can take in life leading up to where you might want to end up, but if you have chosen your path, that doesn’t mean you should abandon all the others.
Life isn’t about reaching an end, it’s what happens along to way that counts.
To stumble, to fall, to create memories along the way. It’s your journey which matters, not the destination. And it’s never too late to go back and rewrite history, if someday you find that somewhere in your heart you wanted to take a different path to where you should be, where you are destined to be.

Lost love shouldn’t be considered a painful chase, but a stage of self-improvement.

We are just experiencing life itself through losses and gains. We have all loved someone, we were once loved by someone, we have hurt before and we have been hurt by others.

Joy, frustration, disappointment, longing and waiting are just emotions given to make you understand what you lose or gain isn’t important. You have to live either way.

What’s important is you have grow up from your experiences, your life is no longer a bottomless pit, it is an adventure full of undiscovered treasure. Everything is different now than how it was before. Everything is ever changing, although nothing is everlasting.

We fall in love with people who don’t love themselves, maybe because we think we could be someone’s missing piece. Perhaps that’s narcissistic, to think we are another individual's antidote for existence, and perhaps it’s the all too human need to be needed.