If you wanna make a change to your lifestyle, make sure you’re changing for the benefit of yourself and not simply to meet the expectations of others in order to please them.

Appreciate more, complain less.

“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” - Marianne Williamson

Don't you agree that we humans tend to complain a lot more than being grateful?
We complain about the hot weather, we complain about the rainy nights; we complain about the bumpy road; we complain how our lives suck; we complain about this and that.
We grumble, we hate, we rant, we moan, we whine.
In the end we feel extremely miserable and think that life isn't treating us good enough.

As you waste your breath complaining about life, someone out there is breathing their last.

So why not appreciate what you have, be thankful and stop complaining.

Learn how to give compliments and how to express your gratitude - hey, appreciation won't cost you any penny!

Appreciate more, complain less. 

You can’t become who you want to be by remaining who you are. This means leaving your comfort zone and facing your fears or breaking old habits. People complain all the time about how unhappy they are with their job, school, and life but never do anything about it. The reason why people become stagnant is because they never do anything different. You have to be willing to do something different to get a different result.

8 things I learned by the age of 18:

1. Everything takes time. Whether it’s getting over someone, making a change or finishing something, it takes time. And that’s okay. We’re always in a hurry and we forget to appreciate or even just accept the process.

2. Other people are not the answer. You may think others can heal you or make you feel better, which they might. However, in the end it’s up to you. Learn how to love yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it.

3. Grow. Never stop working on yourself, on things you’re passionate about, or on your future. Grow into the person you want to become - even if you’re not sure who that is.

4. The more that you wait, the more time that you waste. Don’t keep telling yourself “you’ll do it tomorrow”. Now is now and who knows what happens tomorrow.

5. Often, people are temporary. Accept it. It hurts, it’s unfair, but sometimes friendships end or people leave. Treasure every moment you have with someone rather than being afraid it could end.

6. Some days will suck and it’s okay. Find peace in the days you’re feeling sad, find peace in being bored. Without having bad days, good days wouldn’t be as good.

7. Don’t let anyone determine who you are. Only you decide which way you’re going, only you decide what you wear and only you decide what you want to be like. Don’t let anyone take that right away from you.

8. Change is inevitable. No matter if it’s positive or negative, change is one of the few things you can always rely on. Don’t fear it, but feel reassured - you won’t live the same life all along.

I’m not really afraid of commitment. I’m honestly afraid to have something I could possibly lose.

I don’t understand how people say mean things so easily lol like someone could have spent years learning to love themselves and you say something and take them back to square one with just a few words.

I’m antisocial, yet social. I don’t talk to people first, but when someone talks to me first I’m up for talking to them. Some days I’ll be really talkative and friendly and other days I’m just in my shell like nah today ain’t the day for socialising.

Announcement peeps!

Taking a break from social media (mainly my facebook page, youtube channel and instagram) for awhile. I have a lot of things to handle on my plate now, especially with work. I want to spend my time investing in what is important to me, working on what I need to do, and being intentional in building friendships in my life with the right people. I lack that, so I’m doing all I can to work toward that. Life is better shared together than if we experience it secondhand from a screen. We need authentic interaction and to be present in each other’s lives. It takes effort. I’m worth it. You’re worth that. Don’t settle for less than the authentic. Find those you can share life with, and truly live it.

“Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.” - Niccolo Machiavelli 

I am attracted to laughter.

If someone smiles often, thinks positively, and can enjoy the small things in life; I am naturally enticed with who they are. I admire someone who can put their cynical and pessimistic thoughts aside and bear through with a sense of humour.
To me, that is everything. I think I’d fall in love with a compassionate person who can laugh through their own tears.